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Love4Lunch Hysteria

February 11, 2012 — Leave a comment

Hysteria is a stretch. Hysterical is not! I’m just so in awe of what’s happening that I keep catching myself giggling about it & can’t stop talking about it! Ask my husband, I’ve not shut up for several weeks now. I’m sure it’s not so hysterical to him.

As you may know, so much of what I love to do is done through Facebook. I see God changing lives, especially mine. The community of children we pray for & support from a distance through Children’s HopeChest is solely connected through Facebook. I often talk about the Bheveni Carepoint kids on my blog, but rarely do I talk about the community that loves them like family.

Children’s HopeChest has several “Connect Communities” each an online group advocating for children at a specific carepoint in Africa, but of course, ours is THE BEST – filled with the most amazing, gifted, funny, snarky, chatty, tag-happy, generous, and excitable group of people I’ve never met.

Everyday, sometimes multiple times a day, they bravely wield the sword of their hand (their mouse) to harness the power of the world (the internet), to share a contagious passion that God has given them for a group of children most of them have never met. Through stories, pictures, videos, etc we have all become one big happy Bheveni family, hearts fully connected with each other and with the 160+ children we love so dearly. Only God could’ve knit our hearts together like this!

What I love about our online community is that they aren’t just sittin’ on their bums talking about how things ‘should’ change. They are making change happen. Changing lives in their local towns. Changing lives across the world. 

Don’t believe me? (Of course you do, but humor me.) I’m gonna prove my case.

Through the amazing dedication and teamwork of local Swazis, Adventures in Missions, Children’s HopeChest & sponsors, the children who are coming to Bheveni Carepoint have security knowing that their basic needs for a warm meal, clean water, basic medical care & abundant love are being met. But like any child, the goal isn’t just survival – we want them to THRIVE and be given opportunities to soar! But first their roots must be planted in a solid foundation known as education! 

In Swaziland, all children must pay tuition to go to school. On average it costs about $250 per year, per child to receive an education. Every. Child.


Their school year started in January, and already children are being turned away from the school houses simply because they don’t have money.

I’d been asking God if there’s anything we should do to help. That’s where He & our Bheveni Family step up.

About two weeks ago I came across an awareness event that a missionary friend in Guatemala was doing on Feb. 3rd called One Day/One Lunch. LIGHTBULB!!! This gracious missionary said we could most certainly adopt her idea to raise awareness & funds for the Bheveni kids who were turned away from school.

Here’s the fork in the road. Some of you will think I’ve gone coo-coo for cocoa puffs, while others will think I’m suddenly somehow closer to God.

I assure you neither of those paths will explain what happened. While reading about One Day/One Lunch, the Lord opened my eyes to see exactly how to adapt it for our community of kids. The name – Love4Lunch, the date to do it, the concept for finding “Cupids” willing to take the idea into their offices, churches & local communities. All within like 10 minutes. For realz.

All God’s big idea. I’m just not that crazy and definitely not that smart.

My sole responsibility in this is to SPREAD the word. God is responsible for the results.  Shew! So I can do this! (Yes another fundraiser!) I can do this because I’m not responsible for how it turns out! If it’s a colossal failure, it’s not because of me! If it’s a success, it’s not because of me! SWEET!!!

So WHAT in the blazes am I talking about?


LOVE4LUNCH!!!! L4L events are popping up all over the place thanks to God & our Bheveni community (you know, the ones who are chatty & amazing & yada yada yada…)!

– Here in Minnesota at least 3 local schools are giving their staff the opportunity to Love4Lunch.

-In Louisiana, a grass-roots fashion entrepreneur who is pregnant & really should be resting, is selling tickets to a noon hour fashion show at a fancy lakeside restaurant!

-In Texas, a company is offering a matching grant simply because their best employee asked!!!

-In Tennessee, H.O.S.T. (Helping Others by Serving Together) led by a woman who MUST be the granddaughter of E.F. Hutton. (Seriously, she talks, people listen!!!) is sponsoring a pancake breakfast, auction and even a blood drive on Tuesday!

-In Mississippi, Washington, Colorado, South Carolina families are skipping a meal together!

…and the list goes on! It’s happening! Individual people are giving up lunch & inspiring others to do the same, so life can be a bit sweeter for children most have never met.

How about you?

On Tuesday will you skip lunch & give the money instead towards the education of children who have EVERYTHING working against them, except God! Your lunch may cost ya $3.00 or maybe even $10 if you & a buddy head to Chipotle for a Barbacoa (which weighs about the size of a chubby newborn). Skip it JUST once!

If you don’t have a local event, you can give online quite easily.


So I just wanted to share the love & enthusiasm that a G0d-inspired idea is creating!

Here’s to NOT having lunch together on Tuesday! XOXOXO

Shine On! 


ps. There’s still time for you to ask your peeps to join you. Click this link to find out even more about how to spread L4L to your community of friends & co-workers. Love4Lunch Page


Pray for God’s Children

September 22, 2011 — Leave a comment

Let the little children come to Me

Our team has the privilege of spending this week with some amazing Swazi children. As most of you know, for over  a year now our social network community has been prayerfully and actively supporting the Bheveni Carepoint in Manzini, Swaziland.

Every day over 150 children come for food, clean water, to learn about Jesus and to have a safe place to play – where they can just be kids! They live within the reality of a county with the highest rate of HIV/AIDS anywhere in the world. For a Swazi child, this means danger & death is a continual part of life, one that can often be lonely and scary. It is not uncommon to see small children as young as 3 or 4 wandering the busy streets.  The carepoint provides a safe haven for them to be children and to be loved.

It’s become a passion of ours to give the children the tools they need to not only survive, but thrive, knowing that through Jesus hope is found for each of them, and their future can be filled with hope & promise. 

This week we are spending time with and loving on the Bheveni kids as well as 172 kids at Mangwaneni Carepoint, a carepoint that is located next door to the Manzini city dump. Before the carepoint was established the children would often be found rummaging through the dump in order to find food to fill their tummies, or something they could sell to buy food or pay for school. {just typing it makes me angry} Needless to say, the carepoint at Mangwaneni has been a Godsend, but the children need to FEEL Jesus’ hands & arms around them. I pray that we can be ambassadors of His love.

Today please pray:

  • Ask the Lord to uphold the children’s spirits that they would not lose hope, but instead cling to Him.
  • Pray that God would help us communicate His unfailing love not only through the words we speak, but through our actions to those who desperately need someone to put their arms around them and JUST love them.
  • Please pray for health & protection for the children of Swaziland, that this would be the generation that breaks free from the bondage of its ancestors.

Listen to what Jesus said regarding children (Message paraphrase), “What’s more, when you receive the childlike on my account, it’s the same as receiving me… But if you give them a hard time, bullying or taking advantage of their simple trust, you’ll wish you hadn’t. You’d be better off dropped in the middle of the lake with a millstone around your neck. Doom to the world for giving these God-believing children a hard time! Hard times are inevitable, but you don’t have to make it worse – and it’s doomsday to you if you do.” Matthew 18

As we are in Swaziland with the children here, I pray that wherever you are that you will also serve the Lord by serving the least of these ~ whether that be as a teacher in school, as a nurse in the children’s hospital ward, or a mom nursing her newborn baby ~ serve them with gladness and humility; for when you do, you serve the Lord Jesus Himself.

Shine On!!!



March 13, 2011 — Leave a comment

U-G-L-Y you ain’t got no alibi… you ugly! hey! hey! you UGLY!

ahh, memories of high school come flooding back, don’t they, when you hear this cheer?

Not sure why my memories traveled back to this rousing cheer… most likely cuz I spent part of the weekend at a girls conference called Dazzle. It was all about helping over 200 teenage girls gain a greater awareness that beauty on the inside matters way more than any beauty you can portray or ‘put on’ the outside. Both matter, but inner beauty should matter more. And apart from Christ, you’re ugly. (I’m paraphrasing  just a tad)


Love is Beautiful

If inner beauty really matters more to us, the fruit of our  lives will more greatly reflect Christ. Outer beauty matters, but you can only hide your inner ‘ugly’ for so long. Usually within a few hours (okay, minutes), we are able to get a pretty good read on someone’s inner beauty just by their attitude & what they talk about.

At the ripe old age of 35 now, I find myself caring waaaay less about my outer beauty {Side note: I actually need to care more, cuz people are starting to notice how unfashionably fat I am} Anyhow… I want my inner beauty to exude Christ’s character. Don’t you? No, I don’t want to be known as the nicest person in my small town. Christ was definitely not nice all the time, but He did ~ does ~ love people. happy people. depressed people. sick people. crazy people. little people. rich people. poor people. ugly people. all people. That love is beautiful.

So I’ve been reflecting on true beauty. True beauty isn’t about the clothes you wear. True beauty isn’t about how fit/fat you are. Your true beauty lies within you because Christ dwells in you – because you are loved. You are adored. You are made in His image.

Go out into the world today knowing that if you are a daughter of the King of Kings, your true beauty lies within. There is nothing you can do to get Him to love you more or love you less. Lets live out of that abundant love He has for us by seeing ourselves and the other women in our lives through the eyes of Christ. Eyes of Love.

“So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it.” Colossians 3:12-14, Message Bible

I’d love to hear some other perspectives on true beauty. How do you define it? And what kinds of qualities do you consider to be u-g-l-y?

Shine On Sisters,


John Maxwell – The Power of Words on a Page John Maxwell posted this yesterday & I thought I’d share it with you. It seems fitting after our Beveni Outpouring 72 campaign.

Nineteenth-century writer Walt Whitman struggled for years to get anyone interested in his poetry. He became very discouraged. But then he received a note that read:

Dear sir, I am not blind to the worth of the wonderful gift of Leaves of Grass. I find it the most extraordinary piece of wit and wisdom that America has yet contributed. I greet you at the beginning of a great career.

It was signed by Ralph Waldo Emerson.

I can’t help but wonder what might have happened to Whitman had Emerson not invested in him by writing those kind words. That note must have been like fresh air to Whitman, who breathed in its encouragement and was inspired to keep writing.

You don’t have to be a professional writer like Emerson to make a difference in someone’s life. Just taking the time to write a note of encouragement is evidence of your willingness to invest in that person.

from 25 Ways to Win with People

I honestly enjoyed the planning & execution of Beveni Outpouring 72. I love when a team comes together, dedicating themselves to a higher purpose, outside of their own benefit. If you aren’t familiar with the Outpouring 72, Read This Post. Basically we took 72 hours to infiltrate all of the Facebook & Twitterdom worlds, asking everyone to give to 132 kids at our Carepoint in Swaziland who need some basic supplies such as Tylenol, band-aids, school supplies, shoes, etc. 72 hours to raise $7200.

Well we didn’t meet our goal by the end of hour 72, but we did raise a proud $2300! Like one of my friends said, that $2300 more than the Beveni kids had before the weekend started. Hope has been created and word has been spread about their needs!

But off & on I would find myself fighting feelings of discouragement that more people didn’t give. If you’d like to read how ashamed I was that I google, ‘how to get people to give to online charity‘ read this brief post Confessions of a Fundraiser.

You know how God helped me through? He helped me through you! Through the givers!

Here is a sampling of emails I received from people who took the time to encourage me along with their donation!

  • Hopefully it’ll help you reach your goal! Thank you SO MUCH for your willingness to step into the unknown, leaving what many of us would consider your safety zone, and embrace the adventure that God has provided.
  • And bless you for your sweet and compassionate heart!!!
  • Keep up the spirit!  Have a great evening! 🙂
  • Great Job! Your generosity will be no small thing to the children of Beveni!!!!
  • I was thinking about you and wanted to say how impressed and proud I am of you with all your work your doing with raising money. Please tell me more about your trip your taking to Africa. Also I am very impressed with your mom blog. You are very encouraging to me on many days.
  • Thank-you for all you are doing for these kids in Swaziland!! You are such a Blessing!
  • I just wanted to tell you how much I’m enjoying your Moms4Change blog and following the Beveni Carepoint happenings on Facebook. What a great thing you have going with Moms4Change. Sounds like an awesome group!
  • Any there were more!

Encouraging words are like a breath of fresh air just at the right time ~ just ask Whitman or myself!

Find someone in your life today that could use some encouraging words. Call or write them a note telling them how proud you are to be their friend!

Shine On Sisters!

Sounds of Home

May 27, 2010 — 12 Comments

We are in our new home!

We live in a small town and now in a small charming house directly across from the elementary school where my kids attend.

Next to the school, every day, every hour, the Catholic church bells sound.

I have decided church bells are one of my new favorite sounds.

They remind me to stop what I’m doing, take a moment and thank God for all I’ve been blessed with. Every hour. Every day.

Here’s a few things other sounds I’m thankful for:

  1. Parties ~ we’ve already had several parties including painting, cleaning, BBQs & birthday parties
  2. People ~ laughter & joy have filled our home. We have been astounded with everyone’s joyful willingness to help us settle in. Even my SIL is coming at 6AM tomorrow morning to weed my flower garden! That’s love, people!
  3. Silence ~ We’ve been without internet & television for nearly a week. I never thought we’d survive without Facebook & Season Finales at our fingertips. However I am loving the solitude. I can close the blinds, lock the doors & love on my boys & husband any time of the day or night. We’re not looking for some outside force to entertain us. We can just be. It’s golden.
  4. Bright  colors ~ Yes, colors make sound. They speak volumes about who we are. We painted our living room is bright green. Every morning, it gently calls me to a refreshing comfort of nature! And I feel alive & inspired to create in my bright yellow office. Gone are the neutral colors of our past homes!
  5. Freedom ~ All of this is the sound of freedom. Freedom to own a home. Freedom to raise our children how & where we want. We have this privilege that so many in our world do not have. And every time I hear those church bells, I am reminded how blessed I truly am to be living in Small Town America.

Ladies, you don’t have to keep up with the Joneses. Your home doesn’t have to be perfectly large, or perfectly clean, or perfectly decorated.

Your home is perfect because you & your family live & love there.

Today take in all the sounds of your home & remember how blessed you truly are.

Shine On Sisters!

I’d like to briefly share a big happening in my personal life. We are slimming & sizing down (if only I could say that about my waistline ~ maybe someday!)

Last year we sold a large home. My HH {Hot Hubbie} and I decided to minimize. We went from a 3,600 sq ft home with an outdoor pool & hot tub to a rented 1,400 sq. ft. townhome. It’s a far cry from Jay Shafer’s 100 sq. ft. house, but hey, being a family of four, we were happy with our downsizing.

Less space = less room for stuff.

Can I get an amen!?

We currently live with family on the outskirts of a small town. In three days we are moving to the inner city. Well, inner city of a town with 600 people. And let me tell you it’s a rough neighborhood ~ right across from my kids’ elementary school! 🙂 Our new home is about 1,500 sq. ft., which is perfect for us. And I must say we got it at a great price!

We’re not interested in keeping up with the Joneses, or wanting to appear as though we have lots of money. We don’t.

But what money we do have, we hope to invest in our children, our community & our world.

Having a smaller mortgage allows us to do that. And we are determined NOT to suffocate every square inch with stuff. I want our home to breath.

The house was built in 1915. It was once owned by a family with the last name of Pickle.

Seriously. This is not a set up for a good joke.

So of course, the whole town knows our new home as the Pickle House! At first, I’ll admit I was mortified & determined to not live in a Pickle! But my HH told me to embrace it. After all, the Pickle House name had already been a tradition, long before we signed the papers!

What lessons can we take away from this story?

    • Purge – go through your house today. Ask yourself, “Can I live without it?” You’ll be surprised how much stuff falls into that category. And my guess, once it’s gone, you’ll never miss it. We’ll be doing this again as we move in.
    • Cling – being ‘clingy’ isn’t always a bad thing. Just make sure you’re clinging to eternal things (that includes people). Don’t let life’s stuff steal your time & resources.
    • Embrace Change – Embrace your world by stepping out of your comfort zone. Embrace & flow with your surroundings. Bloom where you are planted and grow with the rest of the garden.

Do you want to learn more about minimizing & living frugally? Here are two great bloggers with an incredible perspective on what it means to minimize & live simply. I encourage you to follow their journeys.

The Simple Guide to a Minimalist Life written by Leo Babauta

Far Beyond The Stars, 50 Things written by Everett Bogue

So I embrace the Pickle House and all the traditions that come with it. Heck, we might even paint a pickle on the mailbox!

Shine On Sisters!

San Jose, CA Population just under 940,000

San Jose.

The 3rd largest city in California.

Know anyone who lives there?
Imagine in 40 years from now all the people who call

San Jose their home are dead.

All 939,899 of them.*

Not because of an earthquake, but from preventable disease & poverty.

40 years.

What would you do to save San Jose’s people?


Photo Courtesy of Dan Fellner;

In Swaziland, Africa

this is a REALITY.

Right now.

According to the UN statistics

By the year 2050,

the entire population of Swaziland could be dead.


Literally Dead.

Wiped off the face of the earth by

famine, disease & crimes against its children.**

What WILL you do to save Swaziland’s people?

Let’s be the HOPE to this dying country.


Now obviously I have stretched this comparison for all it’s worth. I hope you hear my heart behind comparing two completely different cultures.

More important than cultural differences is the paramount similarity:


We are all human beings deserving of safety, love, education, health care, and a future for our children. I admonish you to let that soak in. We are one with the Swazi people.

Awareness is needed. Workers are needed. Teachers are needed. Funds are needed. There’s not time to say, “somebody else will do it.”

It’s time to be awakened from our comfortable slumber and reach out with all we have (and compared to them, we have a lot), and give in whatever way possible.

Don’t allow yourself to be burdened with guilt so that you harden your heart and close your eyes.

So today, all I’m asking from you is this: Think. Take a few minutes to read further statistics below about the Swazi people, whose hope is quickly dying without the world stepping in to help them.

A crazy thing happens when we think ~ we start to question. We start to get upset because of the injustice. We start to FEEL other people’s pain & suffering. And watch out, because when we start to FEEL, we become passionate & moved (no one is guilting us) with active compassion.

Allow the fact that an entire civilization could be dead in your lifetime, to penetrate your conscience and soften your heart towards change. It’s not a popular topic, trust me, to talk about people across the world that we’ve never met. But when did doing what’s popular get us anywhere?

SOS {Shine On Sisters!}

*Report taken from 2007 Top 50 Cities in USA

**This post contain even more alarming facts & statistics The Nation of Orphans

The Friend Ship

May 7, 2010 — 13 Comments

So are you on the Friend Ship or are have you been Walking the Plank?

I’ve been Walking the Plank. On the ship, but not really...

I don’t want to make excuses for myself but I’m going to anyway. 🙂

It’s difficult to find the balance between investing in my friendships and getting done with what I need to do ~ which translates to doing what I want to do.

I am passionate about blogging (it’s my newest passion, I’ve had many). I want to give it my all. And some of my relationships outside of cyber world have suffered because of it, including my relationship with clean laundry, but that’s a different post!

I want to & need to maintain closeness with my G-friends. I have some great ones. But am I willing to invest the time & energy to keep those close friends?

This is my one of my favorite quotes on friendship:

You are my friend when you can guard my failure, challenge my thought and celebrate my success.

Something happened to me yesterday that caused me to want to jump back in the Friend Ship

A woman that I go to church with called me.

Did she call me to ask me to volunteer? Nope.

Did she call me to tell me about her life? Nope.

She called me to listen to me. Literally. I’m still in shock & so touched.

She called to ask how I’m doing and proceeded to ask multiple questions about my life – joys & struggles. We talked for 22 minutes and it’s been the highlight of my week, perhaps my month.

I want to be that kind of friend. A friend that’s interested in your successes & failures. Not what you can do for me.

I’m truly curious, does anyone else find the balancing act difficult? How do we cultivate lasting friendships while still taking care of your family & having time for yourself? How do you do it?

Also do you think you can have true friendship & community in an online social networking? Or is that just a cop-out for not being truly engaged in ‘real’ life?

I did not grow up in a Christian family.

Actually we really weren’t much of a family at all.

We were individuals simply co-existing because our culture mandates it. Like every child, I longed for acceptance & unconditional love, but I never felt a lasting sense of belonging & being wanted. Emotionally I felt like an orphan. For as long as I can remember I have had an “orphan spirit”. No matter who was around me I always felt completely and utterly alone.

The summer after I graduated from high school, I found out I was pregnant and the reality of just how alone I was took on new meaning.  My parents wanted NOTHING to do with another “kid” so I was told to either I terminate the pregnancy or I had to get out.

To say I was terrified would be an understatement.

Feeling alone in a place you call home is one thing, having NO home is another thing entirely.

Not knowing where to turn, I found myself downtown at a clinic, prepared to terminate the pregnancy.  Unlike now, when you can simply schedule the procedure and have it done within a matter of hours, back then it was a two-day process.  The first day you came in and talked to the medical staff, watched a video and the next day you came back in to have the “procedure”.  As I sat in that office watching the video, silent tears streamed down my face.

The nurse came in and sat with me quietly for a few minutes.  And then she said the magic words…”you know that you DO have another option.”  It was exactly what I needed to hear. In that moment, it was as if I was given permission to say yes to continuing that life inside of me.

Baby Bethany

That one conversation forever altered the course of my life.

I gave birth to my daughter, Bethany, on October 3, 1990.

What an amazing gift becoming a mother is.

Being able to pour into my child all of the love, compassion and nurturing that was withheld from me was a defining moment that redefined how I viewed myself and the world around me.

Barriers that I had built around my heart to protect myself were no longer necessary.

It’s impossible to find the right words to do it justice.  All I can tell you is that in the months…and eventually years that followed her arrival into my life, the holes that existed began to fill up and the deep ache from my family wounds began to fade. As a mother, I learned how to give and receive unconditional love through the gift of my daughter’s life.

Very soon my Bethany will finish her sophomore year at Northwestern and will be getting married to an amazing young man.  Although our journey had many peaks and valleys, everything has had a purpose and is just how God divinely planned it to be.

Not long ago, I was introduced to a book by Richard Rohr called Everything Belongs. You can find the book here: The poignancy of the title struck me the moment I heard it.  In much the same way, the realization that everything in my life up until this moment has been in preparation for the work I am doing at Southside.

Kimberly & Bethany

Today, I am the Executive Director of a non-profit organization,

Southside Life Care Center in South Minneapolis.

Simply put, our mission is to serve

women and children in crisis.

I love the simplicity of that definition, because it leaves a lot of room for us to really build a program around each woman who walks through our doors that is specific to her needs, to her circumstances.  Among many other things, we help women facing unplanned or crisis pregnancies, like I myself faced many years ago.  But we don’t believe in the idea of a one size fits all program.   Our goal is to have a lasting impact in their lives and to do that, we really have to have a solid understanding of what brought her to us in the first place.  Everything we do is about building relationships.   And every once in a while, we are in the right place at the right time, and another young woman receives the gift of “permission” she was longing for and the comfort of knowing she is not alone.

Southside Life Care Center Staff

But there is so much more to the story!

We are so much more than a free pregnancy test and a 30 minute counseling appointment.

We are in the business of providing tangible solutions to young women so that they CAN choose life.  We work hard to break down barriers and create opportunities that many of the women we serve wouldn’t find anywhere else.  This is not about coercing or bullying women into continuing a pregnancy, it’s about giving them the resources, the support system and the tools they’ll need to be successful whether they parent or make an adoption plan.

Do you know a young woman in need of resources?

For more information about Southside watch our YouTube video:

Or visit our website at

Are you inspired to make a difference?

Here are the top 3 ways you can help Southside further the mission of helping women and children in crisis:

1. Pray & Spread the word that there is HELP at Southside – forward this link to your friends & family, asking them to spread the word as well.

2. Donations – financial support as well as baby items are needed.

3. Volunteers to work either behind the scenes or as mentors with the women in our programs.

Please contact us via the website or by telephone: 612.823.0301

One of the questions I’m asked most often is “What was it that made the difference for you?” I guess the short answer is that along the way, I had people who saw my potential when I couldn’t.  Who loved me when I couldn’t even love myself yet.  Who were willing to invest in me and believe in me.

In the end, that is really what this is all about.  Paying it forward.

Creating the same opportunities for success in the lives of these women and their children

that were created for me 20 years ago.

The Rynders Family


Kimberly Rynders is married and has 5 children, ages ranging from 20 years old down to a 1-year-old. For nearly four years, she has been the Executive Director of Southside Life Care Center, a non-profit organization located in South Minneapolis that is committed to helping women & children in crisis.

Note from Danielle to Moms4Change Readers: I just want to congratulate Kimberly for sharing her inspiring story. I am blessed by her honesty & willingness to share in this post.  She is a perfect example of a Mom making a difference Across Her Heart, Across Her Table & Across the Street. I pray she inspires you, as she has so many others. Feel free to leave comments or ask questions!

You don’t matter. Your life really doesn’t count. I’ve got better things to do with my

time & resources than to spend it on you. Somebody else can take care of you. Not me.


Do you ever say that?

Think before you quickly & religiously answer that.

Yes, you do. So do I.

Maybe not out loud, but when we turn a blind eye to the desperate need of the world’s people,

both at home & abroad we are in fact saying these things.

Have I offended you yet? Good.

I usually can come up with at least 27 excuses as to why I can’t help somebody out. Here’s my top 4

1. Dude, I’ve got bills to pay! My bills have bills to pay!!!

2. Do you have any idea what else I have to do today? I’m borrowing time from tomorrow to get done with all I have to do!

3. You know, I just don’t feel up to it… someone with Type A personality will do it. I don’t want to stress out.

4. As sure as I start to help, they’re gonna want more & more of my time & money. Before you know it I’ll be burned out and broke! Been there. Done that. I’m not taking that risk! (this is my favorite)

Let’s stop sucking… the life out of ourselves. Let’s exhale truth. Let’s breath LIFE into the world.

Truth is you are needed. There are life & death needs that you can meet! You can make the difference in someone’s life by dumping the selfish excuses & getting your hands dirty! Reach out across your street today. Reach across your world today. There is work to be done!

What ‘good’ excuses do you use when you are asked to give of your time & money?

Come on! I aired my dirty laundry… 🙂